Excellent long read: The Crossroads of Should and Must, by Elle Luna
Loved this Business Insider article on cultural communication patterns. As someone who grew up in Switzerland and then moved to the USA at 26, I can attest that there are clearly different communication styles at play.
British linguist Richard D. Lewis charted communication patterns as well as leadership styles and cultural identities in his book, “When Cultures Collide“.
“At the core of criticism, there should always be an intent to assist.”
Inspire or stifle? Reconsider the purpose of criticism, by Sean Minogue
“The successful people we spoke with — in business, entertainment, sports and the arts — all had similar responses when faced with obstacles: they subjected themselves to fairly merciless self-examination that prompted reinvention of their goals and the methods by which they endeavored to achieve them.”
Secret Ingredient for Success, by Camille Sweeney
“… Every time you use waffle words, back off from a clear statement of values and priorities and most of all, think about what’s likely instead of what’s possible, you are selling yourself out. Not just selling yourself out, but doing it too cheaply. Own your dreams. There is no better way to make them happen.”
– Seth Godin, On Owning It
“The only way we will avoid being crushed by the weight of the hundreds or thousands of emails we receive every day is to free ourselves from the need to treat each one like it matters and like it merits a response. The only way we will avoid being emotionally crushed by having other people not respond to our emails is to stop expecting a response. If we can adapt our expectations to fit the realities of this new paradigm, we will all crawl out from under the weight of the curse of email. Email will prove a blessing.”
Taken from this blog post: The Curse of Email by Tim Challies
How not to say the wrong thing by Susan Silk and Barry Goldman, an insightful and important read.
“The biggest tip I can give you to up your introducing skills is to always assume that whoever you’re talking to knows nothing about you or your work. No matter how big of a deal you are, if you abide by this rule, you win at life.”
Amen to this. Jessica Hische packed some really good tips into this Non-Creepy Networking: Party Etiquette article.
“Max gets up when he likes and does what he loves. He avoids most of the things that most of us numerically successful people complain about all the time: racing from one unreasonable deadline to the next, sitting in unproductive meetings and watching simple things made complicated by committees.”
Beautiful article: I Want to Be a Millennial When I Retire, by Jim Sollisch
“Be generous with your time and your resources and with giving credit and, especially, with your words. It’s so much easier to be a critic than a celebrator. Always remember there is a human being on the other end of every exchange and behind every cultural artifact being critiqued. To understand and be understood, those are among life’s greatest gifts, and every interaction is an opportunity to exchange them.”
– Maria Popova
Taken from Maria’s very personal post: 7 Things I Learned in 7 Years of Reading, Writing, and Living
“Each online community decides what it is going to be, and in the end, reflects the people that participate in it. The internet is made of people. Like Anne Frank, I believe that, despite all evidence to the contrary, people are good at heart. And always, on the internet, I am astounded by people’s insistence on being generous, compassionate and kind.”
– Caterine Fake
Caterina Fake on Online Communities.
“The word sugru is the Irish word for play and that’s what it’s all about—getting people to have a playful attitude toward life and to know that they can do something about their problems without having to wait around on others.”
– Jane Ní Dhulchaointigh
“I’ve generally explained to each of them why stock options are nice, but are worth much less than may think. I don’t persuade them against accepting the offer because I think you should be willing to take a pay cut to learn and do more at a startup than you would learn and do at a big company. I just tell my friends that they should never optimize for options, but optimize for an experience. “- Benjy Boxer
The Real Value of Stock Options, by Benjy Boxer.
“What an industry needs is people who have no idea on how it operates. People that don’t know that there are any rules. While it is good to break rules and to push boundaries, it’s much better to just never know that any rules exists. So, when an agency boasts that they have years of experience in the field that your company is working in. Run the other way, cause that only means that they know the rules. You need someone who doesn’t.”
Experience Slows You Down, by Nils Sköld
“A few years ago, a friend shared with me his strategy for decluttering his home. He and his wife lived in a duplex and decided to gather every single thing they had and put it in the bottom level of the duplex. They moved upstairs, lived in just the top level, and as they needed something, they would go downstairs, find it, and bring it up. Little by little, they repopulated their life with only what was necessary.”
Moving Upstairs, by Jack Cheng
“Don’t have a favorite font. Do have a favorite type designer.”
– Jessica Hische
Excellent read: Upping Your Type Game, by Jessica Hische
“Being kind isn’t always easy. Or convenient. But it has the potential to change everything.”
– Cap Watkins
Be Kind, by Cap Watkins
“In hindsight, selling Upcoming to Yahoo was a horrible mistake. Selling your company always means sacrificing control and risking its fate, and as we now know, online communities almost always fail after acquisition. (YouTube is the rare exception, albeit one with billion-dollar momentum.) But Yahoo was a particularly horrible steward for the community.”
– Andy Baio
Read Andy’s full post, The Death of Upcoming.org