John Maeda’s 4 Rules

1. Don’t speak ill of others.

2. Avoid passive aggressive behavior.

3. Listen broadly, but don’t waffle on decisions.

4. When in error — admit, apologize, move forward.

– John Maeda

Read some of John Maeda’s explanations on his Four Rules

Phones

“We are addicted to our phones not because we rely on them, but to the extent that we recruit them to a harmful project of self-avoidance. They do not mean to hurt us. But we may – and probably do – use them to injure ourselves. Addiction sounds horrible. But it is a hard name for a normal inclination: a habit of running away from the joys and terrors of self-knowledge.”

How to Live More Wisely Around Our Phones

Enough

“The longest lived businesses in the world aren’t the ones that were biggest in their day. Many of them are family firms, or small to mid-sized enterprises content with steady evolvement of their niche. Content with enough.”

Enough by DHH

This Article

“I don’t know how to explain to someone why they should care about other people.”

I just kept nodding my head in agreement while reading this article by Kayla Chadwick.

How do you draw a circle?

Analysis suggests that the way you draw a simple circle is linked to geography and cultural upbringing, deep-rooted in hundreds of years of written language, and significant in developmental psychology and trends in education today. Fascinating article!

(thanks Christine)

Human Stupidity

Interesting read: The five universal laws of human stupidity, by Corinne Purtill.

(via Adam)

What 99% looks like

“Shun the non-believers and ship your work.”
– Seth Godin

What 99% looks like

Questions To Get To Know Someone

This post has LOTS of questions that help you get to know someone. Here are three that caught my eye:

What have you created that you are most proud of?

What do you value in a friendship?

What question do you always want to ask people but don’t have the courage to ask?

(via)

Deep Work

“The ability to perform deep work is becoming increasingly rare at exactly the same time it is becoming increasingly valuable in our economy. As a consequence, the few who cultivate this skill, and then make it the core of their working life, will thrive.”
– Cal Newport

From the book Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World, via this post.

Change

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
— Max Planck

From this article.

Avoiding Organizational Debt

“…, organizational debt is the accumulation of changes that leaders should have made but didn’t.”

Avoiding Organizational Debt, by Scott Belsky

Communal Groupthink

“Most of our views are shaped by communal groupthink rather than individual rationality, and we cling to these views because of group loyalty. Bombarding people with facts and exposing their individual ignorance is likely to backfire. Most people don’t like too many facts, and they certainly don’t like to feel stupid.”

People Have Limited Knowledge. What’s the Remedy? Nobody Knows, by Yuval Harari

(via Bailey)

Rules for Making Memorable Connections

1. Convey genuine appreciation.
2. Listen with intent.
3. Use humility markers
4. Offer unvarnished honesty.
5. Blue-sky brainstorm.

How to Become Insanely Well-Connected, by Chris Fralic

Calling In versus Calling Out

“I picture ‘calling in’ as a practice of pulling folks back in who have strayed from us. It means extending to ourselves the reality that we will and do fuck up, we stray, and there will always be a chance for us to return. Calling in as a practice of loving each other enough to allow each other to make mistakes, a practice of loving ourselves enough to know that what we’re trying to do here is a radical unlearning of everything we have been configured to believe is normal.”
– Ngọc Loan Trần

Calling In: A Quick Guide on When and How

(via lisa)

Don’t Be a Crehater

“Good creators don’t talk shit about their fellow creators. They champion the work of those around them. They know how hard this stuff is. They accept that stumbles are part of what we do. And they treat one another with respect—because we all deserve that.”
– Eric Karjaluoto

Important read: Don’t Be a Crehater

(via Chad)

Promises

“Promises are like debt — they accrue interest. The longer you wait to fulfill them, the more they cost to pay off.”
– Jason Fried

Don’t Promise, by Jason Fried

Brandord Marsalis on Students

From this article: 3 Things School taught you without even realizing it.

(via)

How to Raise a Creative Child

“Creativity may be hard to nurture, but it’s easy to thwart. By limiting rules, parents encouraged their children to think for themselves. They tended to “place emphasis on moral values, rather than on specific rules,” the Harvard psychologist Teresa Amabile reports.”

How to Raise a Creative Child. Step One: Back Off, by Adam Grant

On Measuring

“What gets measured gets managed.”
– Peter Drucker

A quote found in this blog post. (via)

Sorry For The Delayed Response

“O.K., so it’s taken me two weeks to get back to you, and I have no excuse beyond the fact that I just didn’t care about your thing. I still don’t care, but I’m trying to foster a false sense of productivity by cleaning out my inbox. Please don’t respond to this response and undo my hard work! Looping in Laura, in case you feel that you have to write to someone.”

Sorry For The Delayed Response, by Susanna Wolff

Northern Exposure

Loving how Evgenia Arbugaeva captured these impressive Alaskan women fishing in extreme environments. Discovered them in this Vogue Article.

Friendship

“The surprising finding is that the closest, most intimate, and most trusting relationships appear to be distinguished not by how the partners respond to each other’s disappointments, losses, and reversals but how they react to good news.”

– The Myths of Happiness

A quote found in this article titled: This Is How To Make Friends As An Adult: 5 Secrets Backed By Research

Reclaim Your Creative Confidence

“Schedule daily “white space” in your calendar, where your only task is to think or take a walk and daydream. When you try to generate ideas, shoot for 100 instead of 10. Defer your own judgment and you’ll be surprised at how many ideas you have—and like—by the end of the week.”

Reclaim Your Creative Confidence, by Tom Kelley and David Kelley

… and it bends toward justice

“… It’s taken us 100,000 years to figure out that we are only as well off as the weakest ones in our tribe, and that connection and community and respect lead to a world that benefits everyone.

The irony of Dr. King’s holiday is that he surely believed that anyone could take on this calling, that anyone could organize, speak up and stand for justice.

We can connect, we can publish, we can lead. Anyone reading this has the ability to care, and to do something about it. We have more power than we dare imagine.

And so it bends.”

… and it bends toward justice, by Seth Godin