1. Picking someone’s brain sounds like an entirely one-sided appeal.
2. There’s no such thing as a 15 minute call, or coffee, or meeting with someone you don’t really know.
3. Offer to come to them.
A few words of advice to brain pickers, by Jason Fried
“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
― Brené Brown
“Ambition, I have come to believe, is the most primal and sacred fundament of our being. To feel ambition and to act upon it is to embrace the unique calling of our souls. Not to act upon that ambition is to turn our backs on ourselves and on the reason for our existence.”
― Steven Pressfield
From the book Turning Pro.
“We need to learn a calculated form of disrespect and a constructive suspicion of authority.”
– Alain de Botton
“Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who get in good shape. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who move up it. People who enjoy the stresses and uncertainty of the starving artist lifestyle are ultimately the ones who live it and make it.”
“And suddenly you know: It’s time to start something new and trust the magic of beginnings.”
― Meister Eckhart
HHIPP: “Radical candor is humble, it’s helpful, it’s immediate, it’s in person — in private if it’s criticism and in public if it’s praise — and it doesn’t personalize.”
Fantastic read: Radical Candor — The Surprising Secret to Being a Good Boss
“Part of the problem seems to be that nobody these days is content to merely put their dent in the universe. No, they have to f***ing own the universe. It’s not enough to be in the market, they have to dominate it. It’s not enough to serve customers, they have to capture them.”
Fantastic (long) ready: Reconsider, by David Heinemeier Hansson.
“A business is a living thing, a confluence of energies, each of which wants to see its own self-interest served first.”
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back — concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way.
Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.“
Big thanks to my friend Steve Kroeter for sharing this powerful quote with me.
“It seems that the presence of an object is required to make its absence felt (or to make the absence of something felt). A kind of longing may have preceded their arrival, but you have to meet in order to feel the full force of your frustration in their absence.”
– Adrienne Rich
Why We Fall in Love, over on brainpickings
“People who want to change the world need to hang out with people who want to change the world!”
– Maggie Doyne
Based on a decade of research developing detailed case studies on a range of successful networks, the authors of this article have identified a common pattern of factors that are essential to effective collaboration.
– focus on mission before organization;
– manage through trust, not control;
– promote others, not yourself;
– and build constellations, not stars.
Four Network Principles for Collaboration Success, by Jane Wei-Skillern
(via William Ury)
“Outlasting the critics feels like it will take a very long time, but you’re more patient than they are.”
– Seth Godin