“It seems that the presence of an object is required to make its absence felt (or to make the absence of something felt). A kind of longing may have preceded their arrival, but you have to meet in order to feel the full force of your frustration in their absence.”
– Adrienne Rich
Why We Fall in Love, over on brainpickings
Based on a decade of research developing detailed case studies on a range of successful networks, the authors of this article have identified a common pattern of factors that are essential to effective collaboration.
– focus on mission before organization;
– manage through trust, not control;
– promote others, not yourself;
– and build constellations, not stars.
Four Network Principles for Collaboration Success, by Jane Wei-Skillern
(via William Ury)
“You can say almost anything to someone if they feel safe. Likewise, you can hear almost anything, if you feel safe. Now let me be clear — I’m not suggesting negative feedback will make you feel giddy — but I am suggesting that if you feel psychologically safe you’ll be able to hear it, absorb it, reflect upon it.”
This article offers some fantastic insight in how to give and receive negative feedback.
“Design is a full time job
It is the way you look at politics, funny papers, listen to music, raise children”
Notes of “Advice to students” by Charles Eames
In other words, we may despise our inboxes (and 99% of what’s in them), but we’re neurochemically compelled to make sure that there isn’t something potentially important or pleasurable lurking in there this time. And then five minutes from now. And then again. And again. “The internal stimulus is the one that gets you,” Rosen says. “On balance, [email is] maybe 10% pleasure and 90% fear of missing out.”
Great read on How Email Became The Most Reviled Communication Experience Ever
“Forget what you’ve heard about first impressions; it’s the last impressions that count. Last impressions — whether they’re with customer service or a date — are the ones we remember. They’re the ones that keep us coming back. But there’s one kind of final impression that people seem to forget. The email signoff — that line that you write before you type your name — has been all but forgotten. …”
Great read: Second chance for a last impression, by Liz Danzico
You turn up because of the people around you.
You know, the ones with common interests and sense of ambition.
The ones who want to invent new things and do old things better.
The ones whose distortion of reality present challenges that stretch you.
The ones who give you freedom to do things differently.
The ones you trust not to drop the ball (there are no ball droppers here).
You even turn up for the ones who grate on you (they’re also brilliant).
You turn up because the people around you value what you do.
They believe in you and give you what you need.
Together you create something more than a job.
Don’t settle for anything less.
This Medium Post by Dom Goodrum, Head of Percolate Design perfectly describes why I started my co-working space Friends ( formerly Studiomates).
“For every tired, overworked, bitter parent who tells you how much you won’t get done when you have kids, there’s a parent like John Darnielle of the Mountain Goats, who talks about cradling his son in one arm, and picking out melodies on the piano with the other. Or George Saunders, who stole time from his office job for seven years to write the stories that would become CivilWarLand In Bad Decline. Or any number of moms and dads who make it work and make the work. They are out there. Find them. Hang out with them. Ask them how they do it. Let them be your role models.”
On writing post-fatherhood, by Austin Kleon
(via Chris Glass)