Living not Coping

“It is not lies or a lack of loyalty that ends a relationship. It is the agonizing truth that one person feels in their heart on a daily basis. It is realizing that you are coping and not living. It is the false belief that there is a verse, quote, phrase or talk that will magically make you feel content, complete or not care. However, it doesn’t last longer than a few days, before your mind and heart goes back to what it wants. It is the moment you realize that you left without ever leaving. It is the moment you realize that fear, shame or guilt is the only thing standing in the way of the life God meant for you to live.”
― Shannon L. Alder

The People You Spend Time With

“The people you spend time with literally co-create who you are, down to the near-cellular level. You’re building a life. The ones you build it with will be critical to your professional success, not because they’ll be in your field, but because they’ll be in your corner. The good ones will give you a kind of emotional buoyancy and a head-shrinking perspective that will nourish the person you’re trying to become—and yeah, that’ll enhance your job performance immeasurably.”

not in any particular order, and not exactly a gospel, but

NYC Train Sign

Whoa! NYC Train Sign hosts real-time data from official sources to provide up-to-the-minute train, stock, and weather updates, straight to a handmade LED matrix display. A Brooklyn company! Gets my two thumbs up!

Always Reminding Myself of This

some people
when they hear
your story.
contract.
others
upon hearing
your story.
expand.
and
this is how
you
know.
– Nayyirah Waheed

Jon Setzen speaking at CreativeMornings

7.5 years ago, my dear friend Jon Setzen asked me if he could bring CreativeMornings to Los Angeles. I said yes and boy am I glad I did. He did such a fantastic job that it convinced me to extend trust to other hosts, that I didn’t know, to expand the CreativeMornings network. Jon ran and grew the chapter for over 5 years and now, he got to grace the stage, finally, and tell his story.

Jon is a remarkable human. The world is better because of him. Watch his talk.

Advice to New Managers

1 earn trust by giving it
2 hire for EQ, train for IQ
3 eat lunch with your team
4 tell people their work matters
5 be a player-coach
6 feedback in private, praise in public
7 in victory, lead from back
8 in crisis, lead from front
9 walk around and help

(via Farbod Saraf)

What it Feels Like to Slide Downhill at 90 M.P.H.

This:

“If you start to get stiff, you start to get scared, it’s not going to work, the sled is going to break lose on you and you are going to crash. You have to embrace the speed instead of getting afraid of it!”

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Ikigai

Ikigai is a Japanese concept meaning “A Reason For Being”. More over on Wikipedia.

How to Keep Going

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New Life

I could have used this keychain 2.5 years ago when I started a big new chapter in my life. What a great gift for someone embarking on a new adventure.

Magic

I’ve had a pretty remarkable a few days in Los Angeles this past weekend and felt like I got to see a glimpse of the magic that’s inside of me, coming into my true power. I had to chuckle when I found this banner just now. They got it from a Frances Hodgson Burnett quote:

“No one smiled. They were all too much in earnest. Colin’s face was not even crossed by a shadow. He was thinking only of the Magic.

‘Then I will chant,’ he said. And he began, looking like a strange boy spirit. ‘The sun is shining – the sun is shining. That is the Magic. The flowers are growing – the roots are stirring. That is the Magic. Being alive is the Magic – being strong is the Magic. The Magic is in me – the Magic is in me. It is in me – it is in me. It’s in every one of us.’…”

Three Minutes

If your family reunion only lasts three minutes, what will you do? A unique Chinese New Year story shot on iPhone X by director Peter Chan.

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Patience is a Key in Negotiations

If you want to be an expert negotiator — or even a savvy game theorist — you must master one thing. Patience.

Now, what shall I do with today?

From Agatha Christie ‘Autobiography’. Click through to enlarge text.

A Conversation

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Why We Travel

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Net Neutrality Explained with a Whopper

This is a really effective way to explain Net Neutrality. Go Burger King!

(via Loop)

Calm

Thank you Nayyirah Waheed!

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Angst Is Easy

“Angst is easy. Doing anything, really doing anything, is harder. Nihilism offers nothing, and yes, I do realize that is its point.

This is a time for sharp edges. This is a time for ruthlessness. This is a time for taking sides. You cannot be neutral when you are under threat.

Do you think you are not under threat? Whose safety have you mortgaged for your own?”

Stacy-Marie Ishmael

The Creative Independent

The Creative Independent is a resource of emotional and practical guidance for creative people. Published by Kickstarter. Love this.

(via Chris)

Social Decay

The imagined decaying storefronts of Facebook, Google, and Instagram.

The Lewis Model of Cultures


Wow, the The Lewis Model of Cultures is fascinating. Found via Bailey.

Resistance Tattoos

I can’t remember the last time I was this excited over the launch of new Tattly designs. Just in time for Saturday’s NYC Women’s March. See you there?

George Heilmeier’s Method for Solving Research Challenges

Next time I have to break down a problem, I will remember George Heilmeier’s method for solving research challenges:

– What are you trying to do? Articulate your objectives using absolutely no jargon.

– How is it done today, and what are the limits of current practice?

– What is new in your approach and why do you think it will be successful?

– Who cares? If you are successful, what difference will it make?

– What are the risks?

– How much will it cost?

– How long will it take?

– What are the mid-term and final “exams” to check for success?

(via John Maeda)