I will not die an unlived life
I will not live in fear
of falling or catching fire.
I choose to inhabit my days,
to allow my living to open me,
to make me less afraid,
to loosen my heart
until it becomes a wing,
a torch, a promise.
I choose to risk my significance;
to live so that which came to me as seed
goes to the next as blossom
and that which came to me as blossom,
goes on as fruit.
— Dawna Markova
Call-outs make people fearful of being targeted. People avoid meaningful conversations when hypervigilant perfectionists point out apparent mistakes, feeding the cannibalistic maw of the cancel culture. Shaming people for when they “woke up” presupposes rigid political standards for acceptable discourse and enlists others to pile on. Sometimes it’s just ruthless hazing.
We can change this culture. Calling-in is simply a call-out done with love. Some corrections can be made privately. Others will necessarily be public, but done with respect. It is not tone policing, protecting white fragility or covering up abuse. It helps avoid the weaponization of suffering that prevents constructive healing.
Calling-in engages in debates with words and actions of healing and restoration, and without the self-indulgence of drama. And we can make productive choices about the terms of the debate: Conflicts about coalition-building, supporting candidates or policies are a routine and desirable feature of a pluralistic democracy.
I Think Call-Out Culture Is Toxic, by Loretta Ross
I don’t own a dog. But if I did, I’d buy one of these beautiful dog crates by Fable. Wow.
“If you think falling in love is only reserved for romantic relationships, then you’re missing out on so much.”
— Ayishat Akanbi
Summer is here in NY and that’s a good time to remind everyone that Tattly are indeed waterproof. Go sleeve up, dive in, have some fun!
“Change your thinking, your interpretation of the world, change the way you see! To change the way you see is to change the world.”
— Yean-Yves Leloup
This is the world I want to believe in: Barcelona’s Liceu opera house reopens for performance to an audience of 2,292 potted plants. My heart!
My life in weeks poster is a powerful visual reminder how short life is. Each box corresponds to one week in an average 88-year lifespan, and every filled-in box is one that you have already lived.
“Revolutionary love is a well-spring of care, an awakening to the inherent dignity and beauty of others and the earth, a quieting of the ego, a way of moving through the world in relationship, asking: ‘What is your story? What is at stake? What is my part in your flourishing?’ Loving others, even our opponents, in this way has the power to sustain political, social and moral transformation. This is how love changes the world.”
— Valarie Kaur
What's your best lesson you've learnt?
— DO Lectures (@DOLectures) June 23, 2020
This thread is pure gold.
“Criticizing others is easier than coming to know yourself.”
Brooklyn based illustrator Claudia Pearson launched a limited edition print series called Ebb+Flow. It includes 4 limited edition screen prints available as an edition of 25. They have been hand printed on 140# paper and individually numbered. You can order them unframed or framed. 20% of the proceeds go to viBE Theater and Black Art Futures Fund.
” Choosing to be honest is the first step in the process of love. There is no practitioner of love who deceives.”
– bell hooks
Loving this talk by former Kickstarter CEO Yancey Strickler. With a simple four-square grid Yancey shifted his entire perspective on decision-making, his sense of self, and his relationship to the world. His concept of “Bentoism”, inspired by the Japanese bento box, is a way of framing your choices with an eye to the future, beyond your own self-interest, and with consideration for your community and the next generation. I’ll definitely be applying this to my life. Grateful.
(One of many talks of 99u’s virtual 2020 conference)