This book caught my attention: How To Overcome your Childhood. Topics include:
– Emotional Inheritance (How emotional problems are handed down from parent to child)
– The Golden Child Syndrome (How too much love from our parents can be just as damaging as too little)
– Over-Achievement (How we compensate for emotional neglect through worldly success)
– Splitting (How we fail to reconcile between the good and bad aspects of our parents)
– Soothing (How we still require the kinds of affection we received as children)
– Becoming an Adult (How recognising our immaturity is the key to growth)
I don’t have much problem with how my parents raise me but sometimes I want to kill myself from what I’ve said and done during my childhood.
Aug 21st, 2019 / 9:57 am
I think this is pretty much the most important topic there is. Everything bad in the world stems from emotional pain and destructive coping strategies.
Two books on this topic that absolutely transformed my life, saved my marriage and completely changed how I parent, are ‘Real Love in Parenting’ and ‘Real Love and Post-Childhood Stress Disorder’.
Awful design and awful titles, but earth-shattering content.
It links closely to what Brene Brown is talking about when she asks if you believe that people do their best. But it goes far beyond that.
Ok I’ll stop preaching now. :) Lots of love to you.
Aug 22nd, 2019 / 4:21 pm