This episode of the Farnham Project Podcast is pure gold. Listen to Jim Dethmer, founding partner at the Conscious Leadership Group and the co-author of the insightful book, The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, spew an impressive amount of wisdom. It’s so dense I had to listen to it twice, the second time with a pen and paper to take notes. Wow. Here’s to leading and parenting above the line.
I remember the morning in 1999, shortly after moving to NYC, when the coffee cart guy had my coffee and bagel ready by the time I arrived at the cart. He saw me coming. He made me feel home in a city where I didn’t know anyone. Definitely a consequential stranger.
“…quite simply, I was in love with New York. I do not mean “love” in any colloquial way, I mean that I was in love with the city, the way you love the first person who ever touches you and you never love anyone quite that way again. I remember walking across Sixty-second Street one twilight that first spring, or the second spring, they were all alike for a while. I was late to meet someone but I stopped at Lexington Avenue and bought a peach and stood on the corner eating it and knew that I had come out out of the West and reached the mirage.”
― Joan Didion
“Equanimity boils down to this:
Everything is great and I am ok.
Everything sucks and I am ok.”
– Jerry Colonna
From the book Reboot.
I am so grateful I stumbled upon Dr. Elaine Aron’s work around the concept of Highly Sensitive Person. I feel seen.
This houseplant pop-up book by Daniel Gordon is giving me all the plant-loving-feels.
I just stumbled upon this gem of a Tweet. I mean, look at these images? Look at the happy carrot man!
Jenny Volvovski is the force behind From Cover to Cover, an online archive of book covers she has redesigned after reading them. I love this so much!
I have a small obsession: Hollow Book Safes. There is something beautifully intriguing about hidden secret book compartments. I don’t really understand the amount of joy this brings me. But here we are. Book Rooks over on Etsy has a beautiful collection to chose from.
I gasped as I saw it sitting on the shelf!
I have a deeeeeep love for all things cauliflower.
I mean DEEEEP!
As I started flipping through the pages, I swooned at all the beautiful photographs and abundance of cauliflower recipes. Be still my heart!
You know that feeling, when a book finds you? This was one of those angelic choirs coming down kinda moment. Alright, I know I am being dramatic.
I love you cauliflower.
“Deep listening is an act of surrender. We risk being changed by what we hear. When I really want to hear another person’s story, I try to leave my preconceptions at the door and draw close to their telling. I am always partially listening to the thoughts in my own head when others are speaking, so I consciously quiet my thoughts and begin to listen with my senses. Empathy is cognitive and emotional—to inhabit another person’s view of the world is to feel the world with them. But I also know that it’s okay if I don’t feel very much for them at all. I just need to feel safe enough to stay curious. The most critical part of listening is asking what is at stake for the other person. I try to understand what matters to them, not what I think matters. Sometimes I start to lose myself in their story. As soon as I notice feeling unmoored, I try to pull myself back into my body, like returning home. As Hannah Arendt says, ‘One trains one’s imagination to go visiting.’ When the story is done, we must return to our skin, our own worldview, and notice how we have been changed by our visit. So I ask myself, What is this story demanding of me? What will I do now that I know this?”
― Valarie Kaur
“The only time we really know what’s really going on is when the rug’s been pulled out from underneath us and we can’t find anywhere to land.
Things falling apart is a kind of testing and also a kind of healing. We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.
We never know if we’re going to fall flat or sit up tall. When there’s a big disappointment, we don’t know if that’s the end of the story or the beginning of a great adventure.”
—Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times
“Ask yourself honestly: are you looking for a steady, predictable life? Is this what you want? If so, you must realize that the world cannot offer you this. Everything in the world is in the process of change. Nothing is steady. Nothing is predictable. Nothing will give you anything other than temporary security. Toughts come and go. Relationships begin and end. Bodies are born and pass away. This is all the world can offer you: impermanence, growth, change.”
— Paul Ferrini
From the book Love Without Conditions
Kissa by Kissa: How to Walk Japan (Book One) is a book about walking 1,000+km of the countryside of Japan along the ancient Nakasendō highway, the culture of toast (toast!), and mid-twentieth century Japanese cafés called kissaten.