“I hope you find the kind of love that makes you a softer person. The kind of love that makes you want to be a better man or woman, the kind of love that believes in you and supports you, that stands by your side. I hope you find someone who quickly becomes your favourite thing — someone who makes the fall less fearful, someone you can’t help but choose every single day. I hope you find someone who shows you just how deeply you can feel, just how deeply you can love. I hope you find something real, because nothing is more beautiful than loving someone who loves you back. Nothing is more beautiful than loving someone who builds you a home in their heart.
I hope you find acceptance. The kind that rings through your bones, the kind that quiets the voice inside of you that tells you that you are not good enough, or that you are falling behind. I hope you forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made, for the past you keep alive inside of you. I hope you learn to let go — of the things you had to do in order to heal, or to grow, or to survive. You are doing your best. You are human. Please don’t ever forget that.
But most of all, I hope you find yourself out there. I hope you figure out your heart, I hope you figure out your mind. I hope you learn how to be kind to yourself, how to embrace the journey you are on. I hope you learn how to be proud of the person you are becoming, I hope you learn how to be proud of where you are — even if it isn’t exactly where you want to be. I hope you learn to fall in love with the process, with the messiness of life and the confusion of it all.
At the end of the day, I hope you find what you’re looking for out there. I hope your life inspires you.”
May 6th, 2020 / 6:58 pm
Hang in there, sweet friend. I never believed I would find this type of partnership, but I have. And I’m genuinely grateful for it every day — in a way that I couldn’t have been earlier in my life. I hope and pray that you love someone who adores and values you in ways you never imagined. When you do, you don’t question or doubt it — you feel right down to your core.
The only thing I think is missing from the above is that, if you find this person, you’ll have the courage to speak your mind – lovingly and kindly, but honestly. To me, the hardest thing in the world to do is to talk about the uncomfortable things, the difficult things, the painful things that terrify both of us about life and each other. That kind of vulnerability is hard if you’re an independent person who’s spent a lifetime trying to live in peace and avoid conflict. Unfortunately, problems are the only opportunity you have to learn how to express yourself in a way that works for you as a couple. It’s an ongoing process, but it’s SO satisfying when you get through these times without emotional scars. And being so close makes it so much easier to get over it and get onto your shared adventures together.
Thanks for the post. It’s lovely!
May 7th, 2020 / 11:32 am