40 by Frank Chimero

I absolutely love these learnings by Frank Chimero.

Out with Lanterns

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For My Wife, Reading in Bed

I know we’re living through all the dark we can afford.
I’ll match your inward quiet, breath for breath.
Thank goodness, then, for this moment’s light
What else do we have but words and their absences
and you, holding the night at bay
– a hint of frown,
those focussed hands, that open book.
to bind and unfasten the knotwork of the heart;
to remind us how mutual and alone we are, how tiny
and significant? Whatever it is you are reading now
my love, read on. Our lives depend on it.
– John Glenday

Fluent

“I would love to live
Like a river flows,
Carried by the surprise
Of its own unfolding.”
– John O’Donohue

Begin

“Doubt increases with inaction.
Clarity reveals itself in momentum.
Growth comes from progress.
For all these reasons, BEGIN!”

– Brendon Burchard


Inner Change

“Without inner change there can be no outer change, without collective change, no change matters.”
– Angel Kyodo Williams

Task of Genius

“The task of geniusis to keep the miracle alive,to live always in the miracle, to make the miracle more and more miraculous, to swear allegiance to nothing, but live only miraculously, think only miraculously.”
― Henry Miller

As They Are

“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.”
– Anaïs Nin

The quote that is normally attributed to the writer ANAÏS NIN, but it is also a Talmudic idea about dream analysis: People can only dream about things they have encountered or thought about, and so their dreams consist not of reality — whatever that is — but is instead a version filtered through the lens of the dreamer’s experiences.

Light the Torches of Others

“At my age, in this still hierarchical time, people often ask me if I’m ‘passing the torch.’ I explain that I’m keeping my torch, thank you very much – and I’m using it to light the torches of others. Because only if each of us has a torch will there be enough light.”
Gloria Steinem

We Don’t Need More Sleep

“No, we don’t need more sleep. It’s our souls that are tired, not our bodies. We need nature. We need magic. We need adventure. We need freedom. We need truth. We need stillness. We don’t need more sleep, we need to wake up and live.”
Brooke Hampton

Not Want it Back

“You can miss something,
but not want it back.”
– Paulo Coelho

Be Like A Choir

“My mother always says to me, that there is a reason that we have a choir. It’s because sometimes you have to take a breath, and the tune continues. So right now, I keep singing, but there might be a time where I can’t, and I ask you to keep the tune going while I take a breath.”
Diana Buttu

Fear

“Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.”
– Jim Morrison

Your heart

“A man sees in the world what he carries in his heart.”
– Von Goethe

The Opposite of Addiction

“The opposite of addiction is not sobriety, the opposite of addiction is connection.”

Heard here. And here’s the full TED talk by Johann Hari. (Thanks for the comment, Pablo)

The Third Thing

“What we did: love. We did not spend our days gazing into each other’s eyes. We did that gazing when we made love or when one of us was in trouble, but most of the time our gazes met and entwined as they looked at a third thing. Third things are essential to marriages, objects or practices or habits or arts or institutions or games or human beings that provide a site of joint rapture or contentment. Each member of a couple is separate; the two come together in double attention.”

The Third Thing by Donald Hall

I am Not Sure That I Exist

“I am not sure that I exist, actually. I am all the writers that I have read, all the people that I have met, all the women that I have loved; all the cities I have visited.”

― Jorge Luis Borges

Things That Aren’t Doing The Thing

“Preparing to do the thing isn’t doing the thing.

Scheduling time to do the thing isn’t doing the thing.

Making a to-do list for the thing isn’t doing the thing.

Telling people you’re going to do the thing isn’t doing the thing.

Messaging friends who may or may not be doing the thing isn’t doing the thing.

Writing a banger tweet about how you’re going to do the thing isn’t doing the thing.

Hating on yourself for not doing the thing isn’t doing the thing. Hating on other people who have done the thing isn’t doing the thing. Hating on the obstacles in the way of doing the thing isn’t doing the thing.

Fantasizing about all of the adoration you’ll receive once you do the thing isn’t doing the thing.

Reading about how to do the thing isn’t doing the thing. Reading about how other people did the thing isn’t doing the thing. Reading this essay isn’t doing the thing.

The only thing that is doing the thing is doing the thing.”

Things that aren’t doing the thing

Seed

Whatever seed
you are, bloom.
– Atticus

Trying to Make A Life Worth Living

Everything is on fire,
but everyone I love is doing beautiful things
and trying to make life worth living,
and I know I don’t have to believe in everything,
but I believe in that.
Nikita Gill

Be Realistic

Be realistic, expect a miracle.
– Osho

Tension

I feel this.

A Relaxed Woman

“Growing up, I never knew a relaxed woman. Successful women? Yes. Productive women? Plenty. Anxious and afraid and apologetic women? Heaps of them. But relaxed women? At-ease women? Women who don’t dissect their days into half hour slots of productivity? Women who prioritize rest and pleasure and play? Women who aren’t afraid to take up space in the world? Women who give themselves unconditional permission to relax? Without guilt? Without apology? Without feeling like they need to earn it? I’m not sure I’ve ever met a woman like that. But I would like to become one.”
Nicola Jane Hobbs

The Magic

“The magic you’re looking for is in the work you’re avoiding.”
– Chris Williamson