Calling-In versus Calling-Out

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Call-outs make people fearful of being targeted. People avoid meaningful conversations when hypervigilant perfectionists point out apparent mistakes, feeding the cannibalistic maw of the cancel culture. Shaming people for when they “woke up” presupposes rigid political standards for acceptable discourse and enlists others to pile on. Sometimes it’s just ruthless hazing.

We can change this culture. Calling-in is simply a call-out done with love. Some corrections can be made privately. Others will necessarily be public, but done with respect. It is not tone policing, protecting white fragility or covering up abuse. It helps avoid the weaponization of suffering that prevents constructive healing.

Calling-in engages in debates with words and actions of healing and restoration, and without the self-indulgence of drama. And we can make productive choices about the terms of the debate: Conflicts about coalition-building, supporting candidates or policies are a routine and desirable feature of a pluralistic democracy.

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I Think Call-Out Culture Is Toxic, by Loretta Ross

Fable Dog Crate

I don’t own a dog. But if I did, I’d buy one of these beautiful dog crates by Fable. Wow.

Falling In Love

“If you think falling in love is only reserved for romantic relationships, then you’re missing out on so much.”
— Ayishat Akanbi

What is Transformative Justice?

Heritage Bike Helmet

Hello there, pretty bike helmet.

Kissing Planters

These kissing planters by Tatiana Cardona made me giggle.

Tattly Are Waterproof

Summer is here in NY and that’s a good time to remind everyone that Tattly are indeed waterproof. Go sleeve up, dive in, have some fun!

Change Your Thinking

“Change your thinking, your interpretation of the world, change the way you see! To change the way you see is to change the world.”
— Yean-Yves Leloup

Analog: A Simple and Beautiful Productivity System

Analog is a simple and beautiful tool to help you prioritize and focus on your most important tasks.

I can’t help but feel like this is the PERFECT analog companion to my digital to do-app TeuxDeux.

Opera for Potted Plants

This is the world I want to believe in: Barcelona’s Liceu opera house reopens for performance to an audience of 2,292 potted plants. My heart!

My Life in Weeks

My life in weeks poster is a powerful visual reminder how short life is. Each box corresponds to one week in an average 88-year lifespan, and every filled-in box is one that you have already lived.

Where are the Black Designers?

This digital conference called Where are the Black Designers, which happened two days ago, is nothing short of incredibly impressive. Huge congrats to Mitzi Oku, the organizer.

Revolutionary Love

“Revolutionary love is a well-spring of care, an awakening to the inherent dignity and beauty of others and the earth, a quieting of the ego, a way of moving through the world in relationship, asking: ‘What is your story? What is at stake? What is my part in your flourishing?’ Loving others, even our opponents, in this way has the power to sustain political, social and moral transformation. This is how love changes the world.”
— Valarie Kaur

What’s The Best Lesson You’ve Learned?

This thread is pure gold.

Link Pack

I love Alicia Keys and NPR’s Tiny Desk Concerts.

HEY by Basecamp is aiming to change how we think about email. I got an account and I can attest it’s an impressive and innovative take. Here’s a recording of a 90 min Q&A with the founders.

– This is brilliant: The world’s most simple ‘sorting by size’ system

– What a loss for the design world: Milton Glaser, Master Designer of ‘I ♥ NY’ Logo, Is Dead at 91

Frame of mind.

Making Music in Excel

– This is fascinating: How giant ships are built. (via Chris)

– Acclaimed Japanese Jazz Pianist Yōsuke Yamashita Plays a Burning Piano on the Beach

I asked on Twitter what movies I should introduce my 14 year old to. 220 kind humans commented. What a thread!

White Debt. Reckoning with what is owed — and what can never be repaid – for racial privilege.

What is owed. If true justice and equality are ever to be achieved in the United States, the country must finally take seriously what it owes black Americans.
By Nikole Hannah-Jones

– As I could love Maria more. Check out these face masks featuring wondrous centuries-old astronomical art and natural history illustrations.

– Wholesome content: This is how a kidney bean grows over a 25 day period

– I heard so many good things about Keyboard CEO. Now available as an online course.

Dwarf Lemur sees strawberry for the first time!

A video web series by Austin Channing Brown, Chi Chi Okwu, and Jenny Booth Potter featuring conversation on the real topics of race and justice.

– Yes, I would love to own one of these Extra Large Dutch Bread Boards

The Black Founders List.

– This soothed my soul: A blue-and-white flycatcher bathes in a Japanese bird bath

This Tweet made me think and then nod in agreement.

Dropbox officially launches its own password manager and a secure vault for your files

– Whoa! This is stunning.

– Are you a Creative Warrior? If so maybe this course by the wonderful James Victore is for you: James will help you feel confident and inspired, help you believe that you deserve to be seen, heard, and to help you make your mark in the world, with love.

– “Core values are the deeply ingrained principles that guide all of a company’s actions; they serve as its cultural cornerstones. … Aspirational values are those that a company needs to succeed in the future but currently lacks.” Make Your Values Mean Something, by Patrick M. Lencioni

– A course: in Race and Cultural Diversity in American Life and History

– Intresting read: Doomscrolling Is Slowly Eroding Your Mental Health

– I love me a skateboarding rainbow.

– Did you know you can attend CreativeMornings around the world now, virtually. As well learn something new at a community led, virtual Fieldtrip.

Critizicing

“Criticizing others is easier than coming to know yourself.”
—Bruce Lee

Limited Edition Prints by Claudia Pearson

Brooklyn based illustrator Claudia Pearson launched a limited edition print series called Ebb+Flow. It includes 4 limited edition screen prints available as an edition of 25. They have been hand printed on 140# paper and individually numbered. You can order them unframed or framed. 20% of the proceeds go to viBE Theater and Black Art Futures Fund.

Choosing To Be Honest

” Choosing to be honest is the first step in the process of love. There is no practitioner of love who deceives.”
– bell hooks

Revolutionary Love

This. Made. Me. Sob.

Thank you Valarie Kaur, you are a gift to this world.

Yancey Strickler: A Framework for Your Ultimate Self

Loving this talk by former Kickstarter CEO Yancey Strickler. With a simple four-square grid Yancey shifted his entire perspective on decision-making, his sense of self, and his relationship to the world. His concept of “Bentoism”, inspired by the Japanese bento box, is a way of framing your choices with an eye to the future, beyond your own self-interest, and with consideration for your community and the next generation. I’ll definitely be applying this to my life. Grateful.

(One of many talks of 99u’s virtual 2020 conference)

Love Is Wise

I love the work and name of illustrator Love is Wise.

What’d I Say

(via)

Black Lives Matter CSS

All proceeds of this Black Lives Matter CSS Shirt directly benefit organizations that support Black LGBTQIA+ folks.

To Show Up Imperfectly

I keep reminding myself of this.