The Observers

Mad respect for my friends Wesley, Paul and Jeff for launching their latest labor of love:

The Observers is a curious community dedicated to photography and books, an interview series in which notable photographers, curators, and filmmakers speak about the photo books that inspire their work.

Seized Belongings of Migrants



A Janitor Preserves the Seized Belongings of Migrants. My heart.

Understanding the Teenage Brain

Why do teenagers seem so much more impulsive, so much less self-aware than grown-ups? Cognitive neuroscientist Sarah-Jayne Blakemore compares the prefrontal cortex in adolescents to that of adults, to show us how typically “teenage” behavior is caused by the growing and developing brain.

Purpose of A Gathering

“We get lulled into the false belief that knowing the category of the gathering—the board meeting, workshop, birthday party, town hall—will be instructive to designing it. But we often choose the template—and the activities and structure that go along with it—before we’re clear on our purpose.”
– Priya Parker

The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters

They / Them Enamel Pronoun Pin

Last week, while buying new prescription glasses, the lovely person at the store was wearing this pin. It resulted in a wonderfully honest, open conversation around gender. It was a lovely moment. This pin made it happen. More of this.

100% of profits are donated to Camp Aranu’tiq, a nonprofit program serving transgender & gender-variant youth and their families.

This dog:

May we all walk through life and seemingly difficult moments with such confidence.

Standing On A Little Ball of Dirt

“You’re just standing on one little ball of dirt and spinning around one of the stars. From that perspective, do you really care what people think about your clothes or your car?”
― Michael A. Singer

The Original Lifehackers

In this CreativeMornings talk, Liz Jackson, founder of The Disabled List, talks about the misconceptions around disability and shares practical tips on how to design with disability, not for it. This is an important talk.

Swiss Pavilion

Swiss Pavilion invites you to explore bland rental homes as if you’re Alice in Wonderland. I would love to see this in person.

(via Better Living Through Design)

A Real, Effective Apology Has Three Parts

A real, effective apology has three parts:
(1) Acknowledge how your action affected the person;
(2) say you’re sorry;
(3) describe what you’re going to do to make it right or make sure it doesn’t happen again. Don’t excuse or explain.

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What Do You Do For Fun?

I was asked yesterday “What do you do for fun?” I had to think. Spend time with my kids. Sit on my stoop. Host dinner parties. I couldn’t come up with a typical ‘hobby’ though. My work is my passion and is FUN.

And then this morning, I read this Tweet:

I need a hobby.

Calamari Will Never Be The Same

The fine folks of This American Life got a tip about a meat plant selling pig intestines as fake calamari. They investigated and now I can never eat Calamari again.

Listen in.

The Feedback Rush



In this Hurrly Slowly episode on Feedback Jocelyn speaks on how criticism constrains creativity, while questions and appreciations help it expand. And, why effective feedback focuses on outcomes, not just opinions.

It made me rethink how I will give feedback going forward. And, it made me apologize to a friend. Thank you Jocelyn! And, Illustration by Yukai Du

6 Things You’re Recycling Wrong

Can you recycle coffee cups or greasy pizza boxes? If you’re tossing things in the recycling bin out of sheer hope, you might be an “aspirational recycler.” 6 Things You’re Recycling Wrong

‘Triggered’

“It is a milestone of maturity when we start to understand what triggers us and why – and to take steps to mitigate the most self-harming of our responses.”

How We Are Easily, Too Easily, ‘Triggered’

10 Principles for Good Design Poster

Widely referenced throughout the design industry and quoted in countless essays, Dieter Rams’ principles of good design are as pure, honest, and uncompromising as the very products he has authored through over 50 years of work in design. Here’s a poster to remind you, every day.

Making a Case for Joy



So proud of my friend Ingrid Fetell: A few weeks ago she gave a talk on the topic of joy at the prestigious TED Conference and now here it is, featured on the TED Homepage. Just like her, I believe in the importance of joy!

Timing Of Your Life

I feel this.

Confident Humility

“Whatever you’re doing, a sense of superiority will make you worse at it. Humility, on the other hand, will make you better.

The moment you think you’ve got it all figured out, your progress stops. Instead, continue to advance and improve by reminding yourself how much more there will always be to discover.

Confidence is positive and empowering, but arrogance is deadly. Be confident, but not at the expense of your respect for others.

Don’t burn up all your energy proving how great you are. Invest your time and energy being thoughtful and helpful.

See the victories not as proof of your supremacy, but as opportunities to offer more value to life. See the defeats not as personal affronts, but as chances to learn and grow stronger.

Take care not to waste your time in delusions of grandeur. Embrace the power of confident humility, and live well.”

Ralph Marston

(via Emerline)

This Question!

I can’t stop thinking about this question that Will Allen, the moderator of the 99u conference asked last week: “What compliment do you wish you could receive about your work?”

What a profound question. Ask it at a dinner party, ask your kids, ask your team. The answers are raw and moving.

Ambition

“Ambition is a noble passion which may legitimately take many forms… but the noblest ambition is that of leaving behind something of permanent value.”
G.H. Hardy

Text Autoresponder

Did you know that your iPhone has a feature that locks down your phone, making it unusable, while you get a much needed break? When enabled, this setting can be set to automatically reply to your texts, letting your friends know that you’re offline.

The Bosses We Remember

The bosses we remember:

1 provided safe space to grow
2 opened career doors
3 defended us when we needed it
4 recognized and rewarded us
5 developed us as leaders
6 inspired us to stretch higher
7 led by example
8 told us our worked mattered
9 forgave us when we made mistakes

(via Farbod Saraf)

Crying on Command

Over lunch I was talking with Wesley about the incredibly fascinating Black Mirror episode with Bryce Dalls. Apparently she can cry on command. The video above is prove. Wow!