“We get lulled into the false belief that knowing the category of the gathering—the board meeting, workshop, birthday party, town hall—will be instructive to designing it. But we often choose the template—and the activities and structure that go along with it—before we’re clear on our purpose.”
– Priya Parker
Last week, while buying new prescription glasses, the lovely person at the store was wearing this pin. It resulted in a wonderfully honest, open conversation around gender. It was a lovely moment. This pin made it happen. More of this.
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“You’re just standing on one little ball of dirt and spinning around one of the stars. From that perspective, do you really care what people think about your clothes or your car?”
― Michael A. Singer
Swiss Pavilion invites you to explore bland rental homes as if you’re Alice in Wonderland. I would love to see this in person.
A real, effective apology has three parts:
(1) Acknowledge how your action affected the person;
(2) say you’re sorry;
(3) describe what you’re going to do to make it right or make sure it doesn’t happen again. Don’t excuse or explain.
I was asked yesterday “What do you do for fun?” I had to think. Spend time with my kids. Sit on my stoop. Host dinner parties. I couldn’t come up with a typical ‘hobby’ though. My work is my passion and is FUN.
And then this morning, I read this Tweet:
Creatives, if you ever have the luxury of your profession and your passion aligning to where you now get paid (in part or in full) to do “your thing” I can’t recommend enough the importance of finding some other hobby/interest on the side for pure leisure and rest.
— Patrick Michael Chin (@iampatrickchin) May 30, 2018
I need a hobby.
In this Hurrly Slowly episode on Feedback Jocelyn speaks on how criticism constrains creativity, while questions and appreciations help it expand. And, why effective feedback focuses on outcomes, not just opinions.
It made me rethink how I will give feedback going forward. And, it made me apologize to a friend. Thank you Jocelyn! And, Illustration by Yukai Du
Can you recycle coffee cups or greasy pizza boxes? If you’re tossing things in the recycling bin out of sheer hope, you might be an “aspirational recycler.” 6 Things You’re Recycling Wrong
“It is a milestone of maturity when we start to understand what triggers us and why – and to take steps to mitigate the most self-harming of our responses.”
“Whatever you’re doing, a sense of superiority will make you worse at it. Humility, on the other hand, will make you better.
The moment you think you’ve got it all figured out, your progress stops. Instead, continue to advance and improve by reminding yourself how much more there will always be to discover.
Confidence is positive and empowering, but arrogance is deadly. Be confident, but not at the expense of your respect for others.
Don’t burn up all your energy proving how great you are. Invest your time and energy being thoughtful and helpful.
See the victories not as proof of your supremacy, but as opportunities to offer more value to life. See the defeats not as personal affronts, but as chances to learn and grow stronger.
Take care not to waste your time in delusions of grandeur. Embrace the power of confident humility, and live well.”
“Ambition is a noble passion which may legitimately take many forms… but the noblest ambition is that of leaving behind something of permanent value.”
– G.H. Hardy
Did you know that your iPhone has a feature that locks down your phone, making it unusable, while you get a much needed break? When enabled, this setting can be set to automatically reply to your texts, letting your friends know that you’re offline.
The bosses we remember:
1 provided safe space to grow
2 opened career doors
3 defended us when we needed it
4 recognized and rewarded us
5 developed us as leaders
6 inspired us to stretch higher
7 led by example
8 told us our worked mattered
9 forgave us when we made mistakes
(via Farbod Saraf)
– Add energy to every conversation
– Ask why
– Find obsolete things on your task list and remove them
– Treat customers better than they expect
– Offer to help co-workers before they ask
– Feed the plants
– Leave things more organized than you found them
– Invent a moment of silliness
– Highlight good work from your peers
– Find other great employees to join the team
– Cut costs
– Help invent a new product or service that people really want
– Get smarter at your job through training or books
– Encourage curiosity
– Surface and highlight difficult decisions
– Figure out what didn’t work
– Organize the bookshelf
– Start a club
– Tell a joke at no one’s expense
– Smile a lot.
As someone who runs companies with a high level of trust and as someone who cares about people stepping into their own, this list of missing items from your job description makes my heart sing. Thank you Seth Godin.