How We View Change

“The natural ups and downs of life can either generate personal growth or create personal fears. Which of these dominate is completely dependent on how we view change.”
– Michael Singer

Marcus Aurelius on Life

“The only thing that isn’t worthless: to live this life out truthfully and rightly. And be patient with those who don’t.”
– Marcus Aurelius

Marcus Aurelius on Mortality and the Key to Living Fully

A Case for Solitude and Stillness

When you surround yourself with moments of solitude and stillness, you become intimately familiar with your environment in a way that forced stimulation doesn’t allow. The world becomes richer, the layers start to peel back, and you see things for what they really are, in all their wholeness, in all their contradictions, and in all their unfamiliarity.

The Most Important Skill Nobody Taught You

Sitting Quietly in a Room Alone

“All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.”
– Blaise Pascal

The Most Important Skill Nobody Taught You

Being on The Water

“You wanna be on the water? How do you wanna be on the water? You wanna be on a yacht or you wanna be on a surfboard? I wanna be on a surfboard. I don’t wanna deal with a yacht. That’s a yacht. Some people want a yacht to say See my yacht.”
– Jerry Seinfeld

Here’s The Thing | WNYC Studios

Purpose of A Gathering

“We get lulled into the false belief that knowing the category of the gathering—the board meeting, workshop, birthday party, town hall—will be instructive to designing it. But we often choose the template—and the activities and structure that go along with it—before we’re clear on our purpose.”
– Priya Parker

The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters

Play

Play is often talked about as if it were a relief from serious learning. But for children play is serious learning. Play is really the work of childhood.”
― Fred Rogers

Three Ways to Ultimate Success

“There are three ways to ultimate success:
The first way is to be kind.
The second way is to be kind.
The third way is to be kind.”
― Fred Rogers

Successful Human Relationship

“If you mount two clock pendulums side by side on the wall, they will gradually begin to swing together. They synchronize each other by picking up tiny vibrations they each transmit through the wall.

Any two things that oscillate at about the same interval, if they’re physically near each other, will gradually tend to lock in and pulse at exactly the same interval. Things are lazy. It takes less energy to pulse cooperatively than to pulse in opposition. Physicists call this beautiful, economical laziness mutual phase locking, or entrainment.

All living beings are oscillators. We vibrate. Amoeba or human, we pulse, move rhythmically, change rhythmically; we keep time. You can see it in the amoeba under the microscope, vibrating in frequencies on the atomic, the molecular, the sub-cellular, and the cellular levels. That constant, delicate, complex throbbing is the process of life itself made visible.

We huge many-celled creatures have to coordinate millions of different oscillation frequencies, and interactions among frequencies, in our bodies and our environment. Most of the coordination is effected by synchronizing the pulses, by getting the beats into a master rhythm, by entrainment.

Like the two pendulums, though through more complex processes, two people together can mutually phase-lock. Successful human relationship involves entrainment — getting in sync. If it doesn’t, the relationship is either uncomfortable or disastrous.”

– Ursula K. Le Guin

Telling Is Listening: Ursula K. Le Guin on the Magic of Real Human Conversation

(Thank you Michelle)

Heaven

“The connections we make in the course of a life–maybe that’s what heaven is.”
― Fred Rogers

Miserable vs Strong

“We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same”
― Carlos Castaneda

From Journey to Ixtlan, via Jocelyn.

Standing On A Little Ball of Dirt

“You’re just standing on one little ball of dirt and spinning around one of the stars. From that perspective, do you really care what people think about your clothes or your car?”
― Michael A. Singer

To Be Unavailable

“To be unavailable means that you deliberately avoid exhausting yourself and others… A hunter knows that he will lure game into his traps over and over again, so he doesn’t worry. To worry is to become accessible, unwittingly accessible. And once you worry, you cling to anything out of desperation; and once you cling you are bound to get exhausted or to exhaust whoever or whatever you are clinging to.”
—Carlos Castaneda

From Journey to Ixtlan, via Jocelyn.

Change

“Nobody ever changes when they do things they like.”
— Marina Abramovic

(via Jocelyn)

‘Triggered’

“It is a milestone of maturity when we start to understand what triggers us and why – and to take steps to mitigate the most self-harming of our responses.”

How We Are Easily, Too Easily, ‘Triggered’

Let Your Life Tell You

“Before you tell your life what you intend to do with it, listen for what it intends to do with you. Before you tell your life what truths and values you have decided to live up to, let your life tell you what truths you embody, what values you represent.”
― Parker J. Palmer

Joy

“Joy isn’t a signal that you’re not serious. It’s a sign that you’re curious and engaged.”
Ingrid Fetell

One Confetto

“One confetto — which happens to be the singular of confetti, in case you were wondering –isn’t very joyful, but multiply it, and you have a handful of one of the most joyful substances on the planet.”
Ingrid Fetell

How Much Do You Want It?

“It doesn’t matter how much you want. What really matters is how much you want it. The extent and complexity of the problem does not matter was much as does the willingness to solve it.”
– Ralph Marston

Accepting Responsibility

“Concern yourself more with accepting responsibility than with assigning blame. Let the possibilities inspire you more than the obstacles discourage you.”
– Ralph Marston

Confident Humility

“Whatever you’re doing, a sense of superiority will make you worse at it. Humility, on the other hand, will make you better.

The moment you think you’ve got it all figured out, your progress stops. Instead, continue to advance and improve by reminding yourself how much more there will always be to discover.

Confidence is positive and empowering, but arrogance is deadly. Be confident, but not at the expense of your respect for others.

Don’t burn up all your energy proving how great you are. Invest your time and energy being thoughtful and helpful.

See the victories not as proof of your supremacy, but as opportunities to offer more value to life. See the defeats not as personal affronts, but as chances to learn and grow stronger.

Take care not to waste your time in delusions of grandeur. Embrace the power of confident humility, and live well.”

Ralph Marston

(via Emerline)

Your Reality

“Your goals, minus your doubts, equal your reality.”
– Ralph Marston

The Internet Stopped Being Fun

“What happened is that the internet stopped being something you went to in order to separate from the real world — from your job and your work and your obligations and responsibilities.”

I Don’t Know How to Waste Time on the Internet Anymore, by Dan Nosowitz

So Few Grains of Happiness

Thank you for sharing this, Maria. It’s from Jane Hirshfield’s “The Weighing”.