Life

“Life is best thought of as service.”
– W.R. Lethaby

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Life

“Life would be tragic if it weren’t funny.”
– Stephen Hawking

Grace Bonney on The Art of Thoughtful Emails

“It’s important to own your content in the sense that you take responsibility for it. I’m proud of most of what we produce at Design*Sponge, but I’ve made a lot of publishing mistakes over the years. And owning those mistakes and talking about them publicly (and hopefully helping others avoid those pitfalls or mistakes) is a part of that accountability and trust you have to build with your audience. So I want to make sure that I can go to bed at night knowing I did my best to protect and celebrate the people we’re writing about and that when that goes wrong, I take responsibility and people reading know that we care and are doing our best.”

Taken from Grace Bonney’s interview on The Art of Thoughtful Emails and Clear Communication in Collaboration, part of CreativeMornings’ and WordPress.com’s #OwnYourContent campaign.

Previous articles: John Maeda & Kat Holmes on Designing for Inclusiveness and Ryan Merkley on Licensing Creative Work and How Attribution is Gratitude.

The Cosmic Banana Peel

“Whenever the world throws rose petals at you, which thrill and seduce the ego, beware. The cosmic banana peel is suddenly going to appear underfoot to make sure you don’t take it all too seriously, that you don’t fill up on junk food.”
– Anne Lamott


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The Point is to Run

“In a long distance race, everyone gets tired. The winner is the runner who figures out where to put the tired, figures out how to store it away until after the race is over. Sure, he’s tired. Everyone is. That’s not the point. The point is to run.”
– Seth Godin

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Living not Coping

“It is not lies or a lack of loyalty that ends a relationship. It is the agonizing truth that one person feels in their heart on a daily basis. It is realizing that you are coping and not living. It is the false belief that there is a verse, quote, phrase or talk that will magically make you feel content, complete or not care. However, it doesn’t last longer than a few days, before your mind and heart goes back to what it wants. It is the moment you realize that you left without ever leaving. It is the moment you realize that fear, shame or guilt is the only thing standing in the way of the life God meant for you to live.”
― Shannon L. Alder

Stay Awake

“Here is the hardest thing for many people about adulthood: Staying awake. That is, resisting the somnambulance that will grow like weeds over any state of habitual life, excepting acute crises. You have to actively invite experiences into your life that will interrupt the smallness of your story and the calcifying generalizations you make about the world based on your own private universe.”

not in any particular order, and not exactly a gospel, but

The People You Spend Time With

“The people you spend time with literally co-create who you are, down to the near-cellular level. You’re building a life. The ones you build it with will be critical to your professional success, not because they’ll be in your field, but because they’ll be in your corner. The good ones will give you a kind of emotional buoyancy and a head-shrinking perspective that will nourish the person you’re trying to become—and yeah, that’ll enhance your job performance immeasurably.”

not in any particular order, and not exactly a gospel, but

Afraid To Speak

“When I am afraid to speak is when I speak.
That is when it is most important.”
― Nayyirah Waheed

Community

“Communities are not built of friends, or of groups with similar styles and tastes, or even of people who like and understand each other. They are built of people who feel they are part of something that is bigger than themselves: a shared goal or enterprise, like righting a wrong, or building a road, or raising children, or living honorably, or worshipping a god. To build community requires only the ability to see value in others, to look at them and see a potential partner in one’s enterprise.”
– Suzanne Goldsmith

How We Define Community: A Collection

Remember

“No is a complete sentence.”

Ease

“Embrace the energy of ease.”
– Latham Thomas

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What I Will Be

“I must be willing to give up what I am in order to become what I will be.”
– Albert Einstein

Avoid Drama

“Avoid drama. Walk away in silence from anything that doesn’t improve your life. Calmness amongst chaos is a sign of emotional maturity.”
Vex King

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Irony Doesn’t Scale

“Eventually I realized that success is not about big hits. It’s actually in the opportunity to improve. How could our sales pipeline be better managed? How could our team be coached on client interaction? Who seems frustrated, who could use coffee? How could our meetings be more efficient, and in lesser quantities? Do we need more plants?”

A interesting piece on the highs and lows of becoming a leader. Irony Doesn’t Scale

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How to Become an Adult

“We start on the path to genuine adulthood when we stop insisting on our emotional competence and acknowledge the extent to which we are – in many areas of our psyche – likely to be sharply trailing our biological age. Realising we aren’t – as yet, in subtle ways – quite adults may be the start of true maturity.”

How to Become an Adult

Advice to New Managers

1 earn trust by giving it
2 hire for EQ, train for IQ
3 eat lunch with your team
4 tell people their work matters
5 be a player-coach
6 feedback in private, praise in public
7 in victory, lead from back
8 in crisis, lead from front
9 walk around and help

(via Farbod Saraf)

What it Feels Like to Slide Downhill at 90 M.P.H.

This:

“If you start to get stiff, you start to get scared, it’s not going to work, the sled is going to break lose on you and you are going to crash. You have to embrace the speed instead of getting afraid of it!”

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“Although there are some examples of highly engaged communities being developed via technology (e.g., Peloton riders), when it comes to belonging, real connection will most likely come from in-person interaction in real life. But having physical space is not enough: Brands should create spaces, experiences, products, and services that deliberately foster the conditions for diverse people coming together in respectful environments for shared experiences.”

Excellent read: The Best Brands Are The Ones That Build “Belonging”

Uhm, CreativeMornings, anyone? Every month 20k creative types get together in over 65 countries. For free.

Progress

“Progress is never permanent, will always be threatened, must be redoubled, restated and reimagined if it is to survive.”
Zadie Smith

Floating in Empty Space

“You’re floating in empty space in a universe that goes on forever. If you have to be here, at least be happy and enjoy the experience.”
Michael Singer

Something Rad

“When I’m terrified, I’m probably on the brink of something that’s pretty rad.”
Shannon Lee Simmons

Everything Is Hard Again

“As someone who has decades of experience on the web, I hate to compare myself to the tortoise, but hey, if it fits, it fits. Let’s be more like that tortoise: diligent, direct, and purposeful. The web needs pockets of slowness and thoughtfulness as its reach and power continues to increase. What we depend upon must be properly built and intelligently formed. We need to create space for complexity’s important sibling: nuance. Spaces without nuance tend to gravitate towards stupidity. And as an American, I can tell you, there are no limits to the amount of damage that can be inflicted by that dangerous cocktail of fast-moving-stupid.”

Everything is Hard Again, by Frank Chimero

Community vs Network

“The difference between a community and a network is that you belong to a community, but a network belongs to you. You feel in control. You can add friends if you wish, you can delete them if you wish. You are in control of the important people to whom you relate. People feel a little better as a result, because loneliness, abandonment, is the great fear in our individualist age. But it’s so easy to add or remove friends on the internet that people fail to learn the real social skills, which you need when you go to the street, when you go to your workplace, where you find lots of people who you need to enter into sensible interaction with.”

Zygmunt Bauman, taken from this article: “Social media are a trap

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