Goals

“The reason most of us are unhappy most of the time is that we set our goals – not for the person we’re going to be when we reach them – we set our goal for the person we are when we set them.”
– Dan Gilbert

Communal Groupthink

“Most of our views are shaped by communal groupthink rather than individual rationality, and we cling to these views because of group loyalty. Bombarding people with facts and exposing their individual ignorance is likely to backfire. Most people don’t like too many facts, and they certainly don’t like to feel stupid.”

People Have Limited Knowledge. What’s the Remedy? Nobody Knows, by Yuval Harari

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You Want a Social Life, with Friends

“You want a social life, with friends.
A passionate love life and as well
To work hard every day. What’s true
Is of these three you may have two
And two can pay you dividends
But never may have three.

There isn’t time enough, my friends–
Though dawn begins, yet midnight ends–
To find the time to have love, work, and friends.
Michelangelo had feeling
For Vittoria and the Ceiling
But did he go to parties at day’s end?

Homer nightly went to banquets
Wrote all day but had no lockets
Bright with pictures of his Girl.
I know one who loves and parties
And has done so since his thirties
But writes hardly anything at all.”

– Kenneth Koch

Resistance

“If you find yourself criticizing other people, you’re probably doing it out of Resistance. When we see others beginning to live their authentic selves, it drives us crazy if we have not lived out our own. Individuals who are realized in their own lives almost never criticize others. If they speak at all, it is to offer encouragement. Watch yourself. Of all the manifestations of Resistance, most only harm ourselves. Criticism and cruelty harm others as well.”
— Steven Pressfield, War of Art

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Calling In versus Calling Out

“I picture ‘calling in’ as a practice of pulling folks back in who have strayed from us. It means extending to ourselves the reality that we will and do fuck up, we stray, and there will always be a chance for us to return. Calling in as a practice of loving each other enough to allow each other to make mistakes, a practice of loving ourselves enough to know that what we’re trying to do here is a radical unlearning of everything we have been configured to believe is normal.”
– Ngọc Loan Trần

Calling In: A Quick Guide on When and How

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Don’t Be a Crehater

“Good creators don’t talk shit about their fellow creators. They champion the work of those around them. They know how hard this stuff is. They accept that stumbles are part of what we do. And they treat one another with respect—because we all deserve that.”
– Eric Karjaluoto

Important read: Don’t Be a Crehater

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Mistakes

Mistakes are the portals of discovery.’
– James Joyce

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Promises

“Promises are like debt — they accrue interest. The longer you wait to fulfill them, the more they cost to pay off.”
– Jason Fried

Don’t Promise, by Jason Fried

Discipline

“The only alternative left for mankind…is discipline…But by discipline I don’t mean harsh routines. I don’t mean waking up every morning at five-thirty and throwing cold water on yourself until you’re blue. Sorcerers understand discipline as the capacity to face with serenity odds that are not included in our expectations. For them, discipline is an art: the art of facing infinity without flinching, not because they are strong and tough but because they are filled with awe.”
– Carlos Castaneda

Humor

“Humor has a tremendous place in this sordid world.”
– Dr. Seuss

Integrity

“Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.”
– Don Miguel Ruiz

How to Raise a Creative Child

“Creativity may be hard to nurture, but it’s easy to thwart. By limiting rules, parents encouraged their children to think for themselves. They tended to “place emphasis on moral values, rather than on specific rules,” the Harvard psychologist Teresa Amabile reports.”

How to Raise a Creative Child. Step One: Back Off, by Adam Grant

On Measuring

“What gets measured gets managed.”
– Peter Drucker

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Loneliness

“Loneliness does not come from being alone, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important.”
– Carl Jung

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The Greatest Prize of All

“Kindness toward others and radical kindness to ourselves buy us a shot at a warm and generous heart, which is the greatest prize of all.”
Anne Lamott

Opportunity triage

“… In emergency rooms, they put people into three groups: Gonna die no matter what, going to be okay if we help them eventually, and needs help right this moment. By prioritizing where to focus, they serve the patients who can benefit the most.

What happens if instead of ignoring opportunity, you triage it?”

Opportunity triage, by Seth Godin

Creativity

“Creativity is a combination of discipline and a childlike spirit.”
– Robert Greene


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Vulnerability

“To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength.”
– Criss Jami

Be A Full Person

“Never apologize for working. You love what you do, and loving what you do is a great gift to give to your child.” – Marlene Sanders

From the book Dear Ijeawele, or aA Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions

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Security

“Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is not safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing.”
– Helen Keller

Attention

“Pay attention to what you pay attention to!”
– Amy Krouse Rosenthal

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Learners and Non-Learners

“I don’t divide the world into the weak and the strong, or the successes and the failures.… I divide the world into the learners and non-learners.”
– Benjamin Barber

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Believe

“The thing is, ignorance is rarely the problem.

The challenge is that people don’t always care about what you care about. And the reason they don’t care isn’t that they don’t know what you know.

The reason is that they don’t believe what you believe.

The challenge, then, isn’t to inform them. It’s to engage and teach and communicate in a way that shares emotion and values and beliefs.”

Seth Godin

Never be Fearful

“You must never be fearful about what you are doing when it is right.”
– Rosa Parks