What is Happiness?

Grab a beverage and dive in.

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Please exhale!

I have been holding my breath since March. While trying to keep my companies alive and making sure my kids feel emotionally safe. ⁣

I am done holding my breath. ⁣

“At any point in our lives, we can choose to be happy, no matter the circumstances,” my wise friend @suefan once said. ⁣

Think about it. ⁣

At any time you can choose love over fear. ⁣

I refuse to let 2020 go down as an unlived year.⁣

I hereby exhale and surrender to what is. ⁣

I am going to breathe deeply and actively look for and celebrate anything that brings me joy:⁣

Be it this imperfectly perfect heart-shaped tomato.

Rollerskaters dancing. (Check my Instagram story highlight titled HAPPY) ⁣

Tending to my plants.⁣

Sitting with my neighbors on my stoop.⁣. …


Given that 2020 is one big dumpster fire, I am trying to think of joy-producing ideas that up the ante. ⁣

Here’s one that made me giggle: What if we muster up all of our courage and confess to our secret crushes?

“Hi [insert name],⁣

2020 sucks. But I figured it would make you happy to know that I have been secretly crushing on you.”⁣

Can you imagine how that would make your day? ⁣

There are 124 days left in 2020. Let’s live a little. Let’s be warriors of joy. ⁣

PS: Please, exhale. ⁣

(originally posted over on my Instagram account)

How To Citizen With Baratunde

I was able to listen in on the live taping of this episode of How To Citizen with Baratunde and Eric Liu as his guest. A timely and important listen for many of us. And also, for me, as I just became a citizen, after living in the USA for 21 years. Eric started Citizen University and is an overall impressive human. Thank you Baratunde for all you do. Very, very excited for this new podcast of yours.

Care A Whole Awful Lot

“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not.”
— Dr. Seuss

New Yorkers Do Not Crave Comfort

“New yorkers temperamentally do not crave comfort and convenience – if they did they would live elsewhere.”
— E. B White 1949

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How To Revive your Belief in Democracy

Civic evangelist Eric Liu shares a powerful way to rekindle the spirit of citizenship and the belief that democracy still works. Eric is the founder of Citizen University, an organization trying to foster a culture of powerful, responsible citizenship across the country.

Blue Mind

I have been spending the past 1.5 weeks on a small lake in upstate New York and am feeling a deep sense of clarity being so close to water. I posted about it on Instagram and someone suggested I look up the Blue Mind Theory. This makes so much sense.

For The White person Who Wants To Know How To Be My Friend

The first thing you do is to forget that I’m black.
Second, you must never forget that I’m black.

You should be able to dig Aretha,
but don’t play her every time I come over.
And if you decide to play Beethoven — don’t tell me
his life story. They make us take music appreciation, too.

Eat soul food if you like it, but don’t expect me
to locate your restaurants
or cook it for you.

And if some Black person insults you,
mugs you, rapes your sister, rapes you,
rips your house or is just being an ass —
please, do not apologize to me
for wanting to do them bodily harm.
It makes me wonder if you’re foolish.

And even if you really believe Blacks are better lovers than
whites — don’t tell me. I start thinking of charging stud fees.

In other words — if you really want to be my friend — don’t
make a labor of it. I’m lazy. Remember.

— Pat Parker

From Movement in Black

What Is Intelligence?

(via Kottke)

A Bit of Optimism

I am really loving Simon Sinek’s new podcast called A Bit of Optimism. In this episode he speaks with Seth Godin and his wonderful wife Helen Godin on entrepreneurship.

I can also highly recommend this episode with Bob Chapman.

An Unlived Life

I will not die an unlived life
I will not live in fear
of falling or catching fire.
I choose to inhabit my days,
to allow my living to open me,
to make me less afraid,
more accessible,
to loosen my heart
until it becomes a wing,
a torch, a promise.
I choose to risk my significance;
to live so that which came to me as seed
goes to the next as blossom
and that which came to me as blossom,
goes on as fruit.
— Dawna Markova

Calling-In versus Calling-Out

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Call-outs make people fearful of being targeted. People avoid meaningful conversations when hypervigilant perfectionists point out apparent mistakes, feeding the cannibalistic maw of the cancel culture. Shaming people for when they “woke up” presupposes rigid political standards for acceptable discourse and enlists others to pile on. Sometimes it’s just ruthless hazing.

We can change this culture. Calling-in is simply a call-out done with love. Some corrections can be made privately. Others will necessarily be public, but done with respect. It is not tone policing, protecting white fragility or covering up abuse. It helps avoid the weaponization of suffering that prevents constructive healing.

Calling-in engages in debates with words and actions of healing and restoration, and without the self-indulgence of drama. And we can make productive choices about the terms of the debate: Conflicts about coalition-building, supporting candidates or policies are a routine and desirable feature of a pluralistic democracy.

…”

I Think Call-Out Culture Is Toxic, by Loretta Ross

Falling In Love

“If you think falling in love is only reserved for romantic relationships, then you’re missing out on so much.”
— Ayishat Akanbi

Where are the Black Designers?

This digital conference called Where are the Black Designers, which happened two days ago, is nothing short of incredibly impressive. Huge congrats to Mitzi Oku, the organizer.

Revolutionary Love

“Revolutionary love is a well-spring of care, an awakening to the inherent dignity and beauty of others and the earth, a quieting of the ego, a way of moving through the world in relationship, asking: ‘What is your story? What is at stake? What is my part in your flourishing?’ Loving others, even our opponents, in this way has the power to sustain political, social and moral transformation. This is how love changes the world.”
— Valarie Kaur

What’s The Best Lesson You’ve Learned?

This thread is pure gold.

Revolutionary Love

This. Made. Me. Sob.

Thank you Valarie Kaur, you are a gift to this world.

Yancey Strickler: A Framework for Your Ultimate Self

Loving this talk by former Kickstarter CEO Yancey Strickler. With a simple four-square grid Yancey shifted his entire perspective on decision-making, his sense of self, and his relationship to the world. His concept of “Bentoism”, inspired by the Japanese bento box, is a way of framing your choices with an eye to the future, beyond your own self-interest, and with consideration for your community and the next generation. I’ll definitely be applying this to my life. Grateful.

(One of many talks of 99u’s virtual 2020 conference)

Black Lives Matter CSS

All proceeds of this Black Lives Matter CSS Shirt directly benefit organizations that support Black LGBTQIA+ folks.

To Show Up Imperfectly

I keep reminding myself of this.

The Loss of Chance Meetings

I am feeling this Tweet (and the responses) on the loss of chance meetings by going remote. I personally thrive on the unstructured, serendipitous meetings. Trying to figure out how to create them in a remote context, some folks seem to believe it’s possible.

David Bowie in 1983 Asking for More Black Artists on MTV



(via John Maeda)

Leading with Love

YES!

The Internal Work

(via Kai)